I’ll tell you there’s nothing like the death of your mother to shake things up in your world.
Not only did I experienced her loss, now I’m seeing a domino effect happening around me. Other people’s moms’, same generation as mind, are dying too.
It’s like life is telling me “face it, girl, you’re not a kid anymore more. You have entered into your mid-life cycle.” And I’m like “Me? But I feel like a spring chick!” What a dilemma!
I’m too young to get senior citizen discounts and too old to be asked for ID! Although, the heaviness of life right now does makes me feel oooold and out of place.
Also, on top of having to deal with my own emotions, I have to deal with everyone else’s around me too, two hormonal teens and a husband that sometimes acts menopausal pulling me into HIS emotional roller coaster ride as well. Ayayay!🤦🏻♀️
I’ll be honest the thought of quitting it all and escaping to a remote island where all I hear is the sound of the palm trees dancing to the breeze and the ocean waves serving as background music, seems like the perfect solution to me right now.
Just me and my happy place: the sun rays warming my skin, clear blue skies reflecting on the warm dancing water and white soft sand caressing my feet. Oh! And a sweet refreshing piña colada by my side! Ah, can I be a genie and blink my self there now? 😜
Um, earth to Linda, earth to Linda!
Oh right, back to reality!😎
Although this scenario sounds might nice, that would be giving up and taking the “easy route.” Or is it?
The truth, it won’t be the easy route because this is life! Life is an emotional roller coaster journey where you’ll have highs, and you’ll have lows.
No matter how well you plan your life, there will always be something that will throw you off your game.
And the only way to handle that bump on the road is to be wise on managing it and not give up.
You’ve heard this maxim before:
“never make permanent decisions on temporary emotions.” -unknown
That’s a fact! Emotions come and go, and any drastic decision you make influenced by your unstable emotions alone could be a regrettable one later on.
This is what being a mature adult is all about. I know, I know. It sucks to act like a responsible adult sometimes, but that is what life is all about. And only the wise ones will succeed at this game.
So what to do?
- Allow the emotions to pass. Whatever is making you feel down meditate on it and feel the emotion. If you need to cry, do so. This is part of the process of expelling the ill feeling.
- Take small steps in the direction you want to go without putting too much pressure on yourself while going through the temporary feelings.
- Give yourself the grace to experience the emotions life is throwing at you and go easy on significant projects you had planned. If it can wait then don’t worry, it will be there when you’re ready to attend to them.
- You should continue with your regular life’s duties as that will help keep you going instead of falling in too deep into the “rabbit hole.” Normalcy is good. Plus your family still needs you.
- Focus on thinking on the positives stuffs you have in your life. Think about the people, things, and places that make you happy. Bring that happy into your mind and your conciseness so that it will start manifesting again.
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill
Therefore, hang on tight to this roller coaster ride because it will only end when you’ve reached your final, last breath destination. Until then, stand strong cause you can do it!
What is one way you cope with the highs and lows of life? Share with us what works for you!