I’ve seen posts going around saying you should wear your wedding ring as a reminder of your vows. Although I’m not against it, as my husband and I did the ring exchange in our wedding, I don’t believe it is necessary to wear one for it to be the reminder that you are married and that your heart belongs to someone else.
I asked recently on Instagram this question: Does your spouse have to wear a wedding ring for you to trust him/her?
Many responded with a sounding yes and others with a no.
Someone said “While I feel that the ring is a constant reminder of our marriage bond, if infidelity is going to happen it will happen with or without the ring”
Another person said: “It’s not a matter of trust. It’s what should be done without a question”
One said “No! In fact, we never wear rings, we don’t need anything to remind us that we love each other”
I agree with all of them. And everyone who answered, you are all right! Because that’s your belief and the value that it has to you. If you said yes your spouse should wear the ring that’s absolutely okay.
My personal view on this subject is that it doesn’t matter one way or the other. But I don’t believe wearing a ring is going to give me automatic trust comfort on my husband that he won’t cheat.
To me, a wedding ring just means a symbol of marriage but not of trust. As I stated before, my husband and I started our marriage wearing our wedding bands. And as the years have passed we both have transitioned out of it and we are still together committed to our relationship.
My husband and I will celebrate twenty-four years of marriage this June and out of those twenty-four years, I think more than half, my husband hasn’t worn a wedding ring. The reason why is because his original wedding band is tight for him now and it hasn’t been a priority for us to either enlarged the band or get a new one. However, now he says he wants one with a big diamond stone for all the years of marriage. Ayayay!🤦🏻♀️
As far as me I don’t wear my original wedding band either. I do wear an anniversary ring he gifted me for our seventh year of marriage. But I do take it off to wear custom jewelry when I feel like it. And that doesn’t mean I’m going to forget I’m married or that it will be my free time to disrespect my husband.
A ring shouldn’t be the one thing needed to trust your partner or the one thing that reminds you that you made a promise to your spouse. A ring is a removable thing and if you are placing the trust on it is that saying that when you don’t have it on, you can disentangle yourself from your commitment? Who’s to say what you can or cannot do other than you?
A ring will not hold a marriage together. It’s the values, integrity, respect, and love that you both have for each other that will. There have been plenty of people that a ring hasn’t stopped them from doing what they wanted to do even if it meant disrespecting their spouse or breaking their vows. It seems that for some taking the ring off, it will exonerate them from the fault. When in reality it’s simply the illusion of making the statement that they aren’t in a committed relationship when they actually are.
Sure, wearing a ring can be a deterrent for some to engage with a married person if they themselves are on the hunt for a partner. And that’s the reason why some married people would take off the ring; Because they want to be approached or for that matter avoid being neglected.
But at the same time, there are people who don’t care if you’re wearing the ring. In fact some like it. They don’t care for respecting the fact you’re married. And some spouses either. All they are doing is thinking about themselves and getting what they want, regardless if they will hurt someone, including their spouse.
With that said, the power of the marriage is not in the wedding ring. The power of the marriage is in the people that compose the marriage. The wedding ring is a symbol of unity, of the vows you made to each other, true. A beautiful tradition and part of the wedding ceremony. Nonetheless, the ring doesn’t hold vows or values. It’s you the person making the commitment that does.
But the point here is where you put your focus, belief or trust when it comes to the marriage should be on your spouse, not the ring. If you feel you need to wear the ring as a reminder of your status or because you can’t deter inquiries from single people then, by all means, wear it. More power to you.
However, it shouldn’t be a necessity to wear a ring for your husband to know that he’s married and to respect you as his wife. The same goes for you. Respect doesn’t begin with a ring or a legal paper. Respect begins with you and your spouse. And if everything is taken care at home there shouldn’t be a reason to stray out of it. Just saying!🤷🏻♀️
What’s your take on the whole wedding ring issue? Do you agree or disagree with the point stated in this post? Share your thoughts in the comments below.